So here’s the deal… I’ve been hanging out with a lot of my friends lately and all of them seem to have something in common, they’re all looking for a girl. They complain that they can’t find the right type of girl, or that they aren’t getting the attention that they want. Most of the people I hang with range in the age between 20 – 27, so yea, most of them are at the age where they feel are ready to get serious. I’ve given them some advice on how to get ahead of the pact of other guys and stand out to the girl of their dreams. I’ve created a list of top 10 things (in no particular order) women find attractive about guys, which I’m surprised some guys aren’t already aware of, but here it goes. Also keep in mind, although there may be other things which are far more obvious in what women find attractive that isn’t on this list, but I want to share things which some men might not be aware of.
1.) Spontaneity. Women love spontaneity because it is very attractive and alludes to excitement. When men (specifically Indian men) get older, they seem to get more boring and dull. They would rather sit at home or go to a bar. If you want a girl to be interested and stay interested in you, take her out to different places and show her new experiences she’s never had before. Women love men that they can learn from and keep entertained, not just when they first meet, but forever.
2.) Whisper. When you get a chance to become friends with a girl and perhaps even get to know her better, try to whisper something in her ear. (Note: Any girl reading this right now may see this as creepy; however, when it happens to you, you will love it.) The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
3.) Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
4.) Kino. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. This is important when you flirt with a girl. Learn to feel how comfortable a girl feels with you when you touch her hand, arm or neck. A great test is putting your hands out palm up and having her put her hands on your hands. If her hands are well rested on your hands, this means she is comfortable with you. If you lower your hands and they fall with yours, she is very comfortable. If they seem to barely hover over your hands, this means she does not feel very comfortable with you just yet.
5.) Being famous. If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women. Get out there and get to know people. Being open is key to becoming more social and “famous”. This is a win-win because this gives you more opportunity to perhaps meet someone as well.
6.) In style Kicks. One of the first things that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80’s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them. Also, if ever a woman approaches you and says, “Hey, I like your shoes!” she’s actually saying she’s interested. Think about it, have you randomly approached a girl because you thought her dress looked nice? It’s probably because you think she’s attractive.
7.) Accessorize. When guys here the word accessories, they automatically associate the word with feminine or something that women only wear. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing”, says the girl at the bar. This will trigger conversation.
8.) Fitted shirts. Say goodbye to baggy shirts because they are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
9.) Alpha male traits. If you are the best out of the competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women. Some alpha male characteristics include: Do not try to be dominating or forceful; do not seek approval; always be calm; you set the agenda and topic of conversation; never feel like you need to prove you are better than others.
10.) Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling. If your natural smell is not very appealing, I suggest some light cologne.
Now these are just a few tips for attracting women. Feel yourself out and what fits your style the best. Always remember to never pretend or be someone you’re not. The above listed tips are only to enhance your looks and self esteem. Good luck!